Why should I? I mean, seriously. I was taken to task today by someone who said I “curtly refused” to have coffee with him. I’m not sure who it even is, but I probably get 2 invitations a week from strangers who want to meet me. When I ask why they want to meet me, 99% of the time they say “because you’re a hairy woman.”

What an insult that is.

They know nothing about me, just that I claim to be a hairy woman, yet they want to meet me? Am I just one large hair follicle? It won’t matter if I have the IQ of a turnip and the personality of a Q-tip, they would still want to meet me. And, that’s insulting to me.

Now, if he got to know me through email, and then phone calls, and then wanted to meet me for coffee, I’d most likely say yes. I haven’t met a lot of people from my sites …. just one so far. Well, no, I’ve met a few guys who I met through my sites, but that was many years ago and they responded to my personal ad. In retrospect, I think it was just one guy, but I felt no connection to him at all. He obviously felt the same as he never contacted me much after that except to say he married a woman who didn’t have hairy pits.

You guys won’t want to hear that, but I feel really creeped out meeting a hair lover. I don’t like it when they stare at my forearms, my eyebrows, my upper lip, etc. I don’t like being stared at, I don’t like comments on how hairy I may or may not be. I don’t like being made to feel like crap because I don’t fit your ideal of a hairy woman. When the doctors declare me medically hirsute, that’s good enough for me.

Women who meet strangers from the Internet often wind up dead. So, forgive me for not jumping at the chance for coffee with anyone who asks. Get to know ME the person. Don’t ask about my body hair at first, ask about ME. Find out who I am, what I’m about, and then I’ll open up about being hairy, though a lot of it is already written about online.

Very few people behind the scenes of websites even make themselves known. Not only can anyone email me, but they can call as my phone number is right on my main website, my oldest one. I like personal contact with my surfers, don’t get me wrong. But it’s when they want to make that personal contact into personal contact that I have to back off.

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