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If you say I’m not fat you’ll never see me naked

9 October 2007 posted in Fat Acceptance, Life In General, Men RSS 2.0.

Sounds like the name of a book, doesn’t it? But, it’s how I feel. 3 of the last 5 men I’ve met from online have said I wasn’t fat. 1 didn’t make a comment on my weight (just the hair, repeatedly, making me feel like shit) and the other said I was bigger than the type he usually likes (gee, thanks).

But, I AM fat, and if you say I’m not upon meeting me, then you’ll never see me naked. Naked, I’m very fat, clothed I get away with being just fat. So, you’ll be extremely disappointed and probably turned off once you see me naked.

I hate when people try to change my perception of myself. I am what I am, and I admit what I am without fancying it up with special words — “pleasantly plump, more cushion for the pushin’, more to love” — and I say I’m a fat chick. Sometimes I say I’m a SSBBW because BBW lately have come to mean 30 lbs. overweight or something.

Do I like being this big? Hell no. So, why don’t I do something about it? Tell you what, get rid of my PCOS and then we can talk. I don’t like hearing how easy it is to lose weight, cut back carbs, exercise more, blah blah blah. If I cut back on carbs, my sugar goes out of control as my body thinks something is wrong and produces more insulin. If I exercise more, I get bad leg cramps. If I don’t eat enough, my sugar goes out of control, see reasons above.

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2 Responses to “If you say I’m not fat you’ll never see me naked”

  • 3066. Will 9 October 2007 at 9:09 am

    Good for you, Pam. More women in this world should be honest with themselves. I am a fat man, it is just a physical description. There is nothing wrong with being fat or hairy for that matter. What is important is who you are, not what you look like. I don’t mean to say that physical attraction isn’t important between two people, just that there are different strokes for different folks. For each person, like myself, who likes fat, hairy girls there are those who like the skinny, bald, model-types. Whatever works for you.

  • 3068. anthony 9 October 2007 at 10:40 am

    So much of the English language is imprecise. I guess the word “fat” is no exception. If you browse the blog discussions about Britney Spears’ onstage performance debacle a few weeks ago, many people said she was “fat”. Huh?

    I have few hard and fast rules in life. But one of them is to never try to talk people out of the defintions they find comfortable. As with the Borg, it is futile.

    I will just note that in my own experience, as a social nudist and former card carrying member of the American Sunbathers’ Association (ASA) I never saw a naked woman I didn’t like. All body types are welcome at ASA facilities and events. Just leave those pre conceived cultural notions about beauty, etc. at home.

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